We are continuing our series on legacies this week. This time it is the moms turn. So let me ask you, “Mom’s, what is your legacy?” What is being taught to your children about who you are as a mom, wife, and daughter of The King?
There isn’t a single one of us that are perfect. Each and every day we mess up. We lose our cool when talking to our children, who are doing the very thing we told them not to do about 5x today. We snip at our husbands for whatever it may be. Our house looks like a tornado has swept through it yet again! That’s just life.
I want those times to be the exception and not the rule in our house. I don’t want my children to grow up thinking I am constantly cranky and unaproachable. I want my legacy to be that of a happy mom who took the time to spend with her children. A mom who didn’t rush them away all the time because I was too busy to hear what they had to say.
I want my husband to know that I strive to honor and respect him daily. I want my children to see my role as a wife as a positive influence, and not a wife who is bad mouthing her husband the moment he walks out the door. Let’s face it…our children are ALWAYS listening. They hear all the murmurs under our breath. They see the attitude when we aren’t respecting our spouse. Trust me, they pick up on every single piece of that attitude.
In fact, there was a time in our marriage that we had hit a rocky patch. The strife was at an all time high. Now granted this was several years ago, but my oldest son still remembers. The boy has a memory like you would not believe. Just a few months ago he said, “Do you remember when you and daddy would yell and fight all the time?” And it hit me like a ton of bricks. Is that the legacy my children will remember of my marriage? I surely hope not! So often I think we hope and pray that our children will forget the bad and only remember the good. We all know that isn’t true.
What is the legacy of how you are as a parent and a spouse? This week I pray for each and every one of us. That God will show us what needs to be pruned out, and what needs some work. I know I have plenty of areas that need some maintenance.