It is that time of year again. Time to figure out our plans for the year. Time to figure out the extra curricular activities for each of your children. With four children, I can tell you from experience, the family schedule can get out of hand VERY quickly.
Last year I was the prime example of over-committed. I said yes to every activity the kids wanted to do, because I wanted to be a good mom who gives her kids the world. Who doesn’t? However, running yourself into the ground is not going to make you a good mother. In fact, in can do quite the opposite! By the end of the year, I was tired, frazzled, cranky, irritable, dreading certain days of the week, and quite frankly it was going beyond the budget, so we could keep up with everything.
After we were finished with all of our commitments I said, “we would never put ourselves in that position again.” I was allowing the extra stuff to take priority over our academics. I was rushing everyone through their school work so we could get out of the door to make it to the next art, acro, or dance class. My actions were showing the kids school wasn’t important, since it was the one thing constantly being rushed so we could focus on all the other stuff. It also made it where we had very little family time. There was only 1 day a week we were able to be home without leaving. If we were on a good week, we might get 2 days at home. Being homeschooled though, I do want the kids to enjoy outside activities with friends. So where is the balance?
Our plan for this year is to take some time off. We have all agreed we need a break! So, until after Christmas we are not doing any outside activities. The one exception to this is if I find a homeschool coop that works with our schedule. After the new year, all 4 of my kids want to start gymnastics (thank to the Olympics) So I am praying that there is a gym close to home with a schedule that fits everyone in on the same day. (A mom can dream, right?) We live WAY out in the boonies, so having everyone on a similar schedule is a must.
As moms, we have to learn to prioritize and learn to say no! It isn’t always the kids’ activities that send us over into over-commitments either. Sometimes, it is leading an extra class that you know you don’t have time to lead, but feel guilty because they do not have anyone for that spot. Sometimes it is taking on too much responsibility at our churches, stepping into a leadership position we know is not for us but feeling obligated. How many of you have been there? You say, “yes I will be happy to take that on.” Only to be a month or so into it and realize this was not for you. It is not your calling and not your gifting. We each have our place and things we are good at. If we stick to the gifting God has placed inside of us, we will save ourselves some frustration. You can not fit a square peg in a round hole. It just doesn’t work.
The Lord knows exactly what you should be doing this year. What areas your family will excel in, and which they will not. If we choose wisely and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit, I believe we will all have the best homeschool year yet!
I am praying for a year blessed beyond what you thought possible!
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11